Danny Pettry is a Certified Success Principles Trainer through Jack Canfield’s organization.
This is week # 17out of the 52 weeks in 2020.
This week’s success principle is:
Ask for what you want
Almost anything you want requires another person to help.
You might want a loan. You’ve got get the bank to say “yes.”
You might want a date. You’ve got to get that person to say “yes.”
You might want a raise: You’ve got to get an employer to agree and say “yes.”
You might want help moving furniture. You’ve got to get someone to say “yes.”
You might want to go to graduate school. You’ve got t get the university to say “yes.”
Some questions to consider:
What do you want?
- a hug
- a raise
- a back rub
- someone to loan you money
- someone to cover a shift for you
- someone to go skydiving with you
- someone to help you move furniture
Who is a person who can give you a yes?
Go ask the person.
Why asking works
You’re more likely to get a yes if you ask compared to never asking.
People can’t read your mind. They might never know what you want.
It is your responsibility to ask for what you want.
Not asking equals zero percent chance of getting a yes .
Asking is equal t increasing your to 50% chance of getting (Yes) or 50% chance of getting a (No.). You’ve at least planted the idea in their head for perhaps another time.
Following up with what can I do to get a yes increases your chances even more.
How to cope with the dreaded “NO?”
It means game over and you’ll perish from Earth.
laugh aloud. yeah right. You’ll live.
You’ve probably gone your whole life without it.
So you’ll survive if you don’t get a yes.
So feel the fear and ask anyway.
The best follow up question if a person gives you a “no.”
If a person says, “no,” follow up by asking:
Is there anything I can do to get a yes.
Sometimes they might tell you exactly what to do to get it. Nice.
Be an Askhole
This isn’t the person who asks for advice and doesn’t take it.
This definition is a person who is persistent and keeps asking for what they want.
It isn’t asking the same question over and over. The question is changed a bit from time to time.
Examples: You ask to get in to Harvard. They say “no,” come back with an GRE score. Go take the GRE and re-apply.
Example: You ask for a job at xyz factory. They say “no,” you need a certified xyz specialist. Go get your certification in xyz and go ask again.
Ask, Ask, Ask, Ask.
Perhaps a No is an indication that something better is waiting for you
Sometimes you don’t get what you want because the universe has something better for you.
Lincoln wasn’t elected for many positions he ran for, but he went on to become the 16th President of the United States.
Garth Brook’s song Unanswered Prayers was gives an example of this principle.
The guy in the story song prayed to be with his high school girlfriend. God didn’t answer. Perhaps God answered and said, “no.”
It’s years later. The guy is at a football game in his home town. He and his wife run into his high school girlfriend. The guy thinks back on his past and his flame with her.
The song sings, “some of God’s greatest gifts are unanswered prayers.”
The guy got a “No,” but he got something better.
Here is the song:
Perhaps you receive a No because there is something better coming.
Quick Video with Danny Pettry:
Decide what you want (which was a previous principle)
Determine who can help you get what you want.
Ask that person for what you want with intentions as if you’ll receive a yes.
Feel the fear and ask anyway. You’ll survive if you get a no.
If the person says no, then ask if there is anything you can do to get a yes.
If they tell you something — then do it and ask again.
If they say never, ever, then perhaps something better is waiting for you.
Book Recommendation for people who need extra help with asking for what they want
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- setting goals
- asking for feedback/ help
- developing a positive mindset
- staying determined and persistent
Cute story that uses skateboarding to teach success
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